I really want to do this but I don't know if I have the right motivation

[MellyBu]

Okay, so I really want to get healthier and do this, but my past consists of not so healthy eating.

I used to be itty bitty up until I was 10 when my family and I moved a whopping 45 minutes away from where we used to live (that's like forever away when you are 10), so i started eating like none other when I got bored because I was no longer active with thepeople I loved to hang out withg and run around on the playground with, I ballooned up to a whopping 110lbs at like 4'10 or something crazy.

Kept on eating when I was 14, at 5'3.5 (yes that half inch makes a huuuge difference) I was all the way up to 160lbs. I was made fun of as the fat chick, guys wouldnt 'date' me cuz I was fat and ugly. My dad got deployed to Iraq, 2 weeks later my favorite uncle died, then 2 weeks after that we had to put our family dog asleep that was the same age I was. I started skipping meals, binging, self induced vomiting for a good 4 years. I have gone to the point where for a 'meal' I would consume 1 diet coke, 2 diet pills, and 1 cigarette. sometimes my meal would only consist of 1 apple, or a couple slices of pepperoni, or a cup of ice.

In september 2009, I quit smoking, haven't had cigarette since then, and I have gotten a little bit healthier, I eat now, still with the purging thoughts, and sometimes I wake up thinking 'i dont want to eat this week' but I do because I don't want to hurt my bf by hurting my body.

So the issue is, my bf doesn't like me when I do ANY diets, because I of my past with diets that I take it to the extreme, especially since phase 2 you fast all day until dinner time. In fact the main reason why I got over my eating disorder is because he would make me eat junk food that I would normally be terrified of, such as tacos or french fries, or chicken nuggets, all from fast food places.

So my question is, how do I convince him that I won't fall back into my old eating habits? Right now I am 5'3.5 at 135lbs, I ballooned up 10lbs (used to be 125lbs) before I got surgery on my foot and wasn't able to wak, got it done on December 18th, 2009, and I am still barely able to do any exercises.

I want to be at a healthy weight of 105-110lbs  but I don't know if I can do this diet without my bf joining or without him forcing me to eat certain types of food that thgis diet does not allow.

help???

[Tony Bondioli]

Reframe your thinking.  This isn't a diet.  It's a lifestyle centered around eating the kinds of food for which the human body has evolved.  Eating paleo just means giving your body the fuel it needs to operate at maximum efficiency, and cutting out the garbage.

[taimenz]

This isn't a diet its a way of life, its almost like becoming a vegetarian. You are making a conscious decision to eat the way your body is designed to eat.  Here is a little motivation also since you say you eat when you get depressed.  I would say that I eat a 80% healthy diet, sometimes I fall into a rut because Im really busy, traveling or working really hard and feel like I don't have time so Ill grab a breakfast sandwich then i find my self eating a hoagie at lunch and then just saying i guess i should just go eat dinner out too and get back on it tomorrow. That shock of bad food messes with my system it makes me tired sluggish and irritable. Im assuming a lot of it has to do with your blood sugar spikes and falls but when you eat clean you get tons of energy which in turn makes you feel good about being alive.

Good Luck
Remember its a good day no matter how bad it is it can always get worse so appreciate what you have at the moment not what you want to have

[SidheDraoi]

I don't think I have to reidderate the "its not a diet" thing haha. But its very true, it is a lifestyle.... ever since I started on it I feel amazing, more energy, better concentration, I barely smoke anymore which is amazing to me!!

my Bf doesnt like me on diets anyway, but i'm in charge of groceries and when I started not bringing bread and dairy home he barely noticed and when he did I told him that everytime I eat that kind of stuff I get really bloated and extremely uncomfortable (which is true!) and he backed down from his "oh no not a diet!' trip and understood (for once) haha! 

[MellyBu]

lol yeah okay. I will let him know. Like i literally hate the way i look in the mirror, all I see are rolls and rolls and no shape at all to my body.

[Lilnicki]

Why dont you show him this website...... let him read through the introduction, show him the stages, and also remind him it's not a diet, but a healthy way of eating........ i think it's fair to say that ALL of us that have tried the Caveman way of eating feel much better for it which must be worth a try yes??...... maybe he'll join you in trying it once he see's the benefits

Nicki